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Lidia K.

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Temat: Meeting new people

Do you like it?

I'm facing a weekend with lots of people I don't know.
For me it's extremely stressful. I'll survive, no other option.

What is that some people like about meeting new people? Everybody is basically the same... ;)
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I don't like meeting a lot of new people in bulk. One or two seems to be the most I can take at a time - unless they're students of course (but I have stopped teaching large groups some time ago). It also depends on the situation - last time in Krakow we joined a group of GL Krakow people, and I only knew one girl who'd worked with me in Katowice; but, since it was more of a gathering of people in a club, I didn't mind. I'd feel a bit uncomfortable if I had to shake hands with all of them and exchange pleasantries.
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Lidia K.:
Do you like it?

I'm facing a weekend with lots of people I don't know.
For me it's extremely stressful. I'll survive, no other option.

I think I'm with you on this one. I don't function well with big groups, especially of new people.
And I'm hopeless at smalltalk.
So I have no advice at all! :-)
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Ilter K.

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I'm ok with meeting many people at the same time.
It might be tiring, but you don't do it often anyway.

When you are about to get bored, somebody else kicks in and carries out the conversation. If not, I might need to talk more than I prefer, just to make it fun for everyone.ilter K. edytował(a) ten post dnia 10.07.08 o godzinie 18:36
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Lidia K.:
Do you like it?

Not particularly if it means asking the same questions, being asked the same questions and knowing that you'll almost certainly never see them again anyway.
Maybe I've just met too many people for half an hour, or maybe I'm just a misery, but I don't really relate to these people who class 'meeting new people' as something like a hobby. Maybe they are just younger and have been exposed to the wider world for less time.
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Steve Jones

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Temat: Meeting new people

I go to quite a lot of conferences and give quite a lot of training sessions. So, meeting new people is an inevitable part of that. It used to be a bit daunting, but I since got
used to it after taking the plunge a few times. I quite enjoy it now. I'm curious who I'll meet. You might meet soemone really interesting or useful for business or inspiring or just a good companion or
maybe even your future spouse! Sky's the limit and well worth leaving your hotel room for!

The secret is to avoid boring small talk and open with either a strange question or witty observation. Then you're off!Steve Jones edytował(a) ten post dnia 10.07.08 o godzinie 21:33
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Steve Jones:
Sky's the limit and well worth leaving your hotel room for!
Quite often Sky is in the hotel room. Then you don't have to leave it.
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Sylwia Łubkowska

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I like meeting new people and since I started teaching adults, I've enjoyed meeting them at work.

Mind you, even though at certain times I can be a real chatterbox on the loose (as Steve can testify), I am too often clueless as to doing the small talk thing. Which is why I often use classroom environment for the purposes of my own entertainment, where topics of conversations are provided by learning materials. Needless to say, I really need to watch myself for going off at a tangent with my countless digressions but these are the king of situations I feel most at ease in.

I like the organised structure of GL with its groups and threads for the same reason.
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Lidia K.

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I thought it's only me who's having a hard time to meet new people. Thanks for your understanding.

I'm not afraid of small talk, I'm also a teacher after all, there's always stuff to talk about. It's the unknown, lack of control, and unpredictability of situations with new people. It'a a lot of pretending and artificial situations that I cannot stand sometimes (weddings and other formal meetings are worst I think).

Can you be yourself in a group of people?
Or you sacrifice a part of yourself to be able to get on with most of them?
Am I hysterical already?
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Sylwia Łubkowska

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Temat: Meeting new people

Lidia K.:
I thought it's only me who's having a hard time to meet new people. Thanks for your understanding.

I'm not afraid of small talk, I'm also a teacher after all, there's always stuff to talk about. It's the unknown, lack of control, and unpredictability of situations with new people. It'a a lot of pretending and artificial situations that I cannot stand sometimes (weddings and other formal meetings are worst I think).

Yeah, I hate weddings.

Can you be yourself in a group of people?

It really depends. If it's a group of people who already know each other well, this may be difficult. Such group can have very strong 'narcisstic' inclinations and talk only about their own shared experiences without much room for the input from others. I think being a member of a group requires equal efforts on both sides.
Or you sacrifice a part of yourself to be able to get on with most of them?

I wouldn't call it 'sacrifice', I'd say it's often worth making mental 'concessions' for a while, to probe for the group's mentality and see if there's a chance you may have something in common. Because, as it often happens, there may be more to it than meets the eye at first. On the other hand, you can only do so much and sometimes it's best to let go of it.
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