Temat: Wasze historie

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Temat: Wasze historie

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A symbiotic relationship 1
Monday July 06, 2009

Dear Ms Miller

I am 34 and I have recently started my journey for freedom from my depressed mother who forced me to live out her aspirations at the neglect of my true self. I have been working on this for 2 years now with a wonderful therapist. Just recently I have discovered your work which has been an enormous help for me. The Drama of the Gifted Child had me up all night, weeping, and it brought me closer to understanding the depth of my pain and rage. Thank you for helping me to experience the truth of my life.

I have a question that I would really appreciate your views on. My partner has night epilepsy which I was first diagnosed when he was 14. He takes medication which ‘controls’ the fits. He considers his child hood a very happy one with a supportive mother and father. I have never said anything to him but I think he has enormous rage at his narcissistic mother who smothered him to fill her emotional void and a father than failed to properly validate him. Your ideas in the Body Never Lies make a lot of sense to me but I don’t think he would be open to them at this stage.

The issue for me is that when I lie next to him at night when he is asleep, I feel an electric current running from his brain into mine. I think I am feeling the epileptic activity in his brain that he is not experiencing because the medication is masking his awareness of it. At first it kept me awake all night and left me feeling completely depleted and exhausted. I have learnt to shut down from it a bit but it still feels parasitic and makes me apprehensive about sleeping next to him. I was wondering if you help me to understand this. Have you heard of this before? I know this is not just my imagination because I experienced it strongly in our early times together before I knew he was an epileptic. I feel it may be that my parasitic mother made me sensitive to being used in this way and now I am repeating this with my partner. I love him and I want to be open and loving but I want to be misused any longer. Can you help me understand it so I can begin to free myself?

Kind regards

FC,

AM: You are writing: I love him and I want to be open and loving but I WANT to be misused any longer. Do you think that this mistake can have any meaning?

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A symbiotic relationship 2
Tuesday July 07, 2009

Oh my goodness, how revealing! That gives me real insight into where I really am today. How do I get out of this place?

AM: You are asking how you get out of this place. I think by feeling YOUR OWN authentic feelings and by thoroughly examining your OWN childhood story instead to trying to deal with the childhood of somebody else who even totally denies his suffering. Have you realized that you have written in your letter:
"My partner has night epilepsy which I (!!!) was first diagnosed when (he!!!) was 14?" You seem to live in a total symbiosis with your partner. What forces you to do this?

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Temat: Wasze historie

Czytałam na grupie Agnieszki Wasze historie moge prosić ciebie Magdo i Dorotko o przekopiowanie ich tutaj?? będę bardzo wdzięczna i z góry dzięguje.Sabina G edytował(a) ten post dnia 09.07.09 o godzinie 00:29